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New father of 3 months, gf driving me nuts...?

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Submitted : 2018-06-13 22:04:40    Popularity:     

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So we had a kid, I love him, she loves him. I got 3 weeks of work, she gets 9 months. I'm up at 6am every day and start work at 7am, I didn't get back today until 6pm. I've told her numerous times that if she needs my help, or me to look after

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offer to do laundry in the evening, offer to clean up the kitchen or make the dinner while she breast feeds - YES you work all day but taking care of a baby so does she - help out as you can, understand she is under pressure to deal with this new life that is TOTALLY dependent on her - do you change diapers?

Get her some help

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People often make vague offers of help, when it's better to be specific: would you like me to stay home tomorrow so you can have a day off? How about a foot rub? I'll bring home dinner tonight. Let me run the bath for you so you can soak while I watch the baby....

What you are supposed to do is not disappear into your man cave or wherever the hell you practice your hobbies after she's already been alone with a 3 month old for 12 hours.

This parenting gig is 24/7. For BOTH of you. She's doing her part day and night. You do your part half the time, by going to work and providing financially, and then you throw up your hands, say "oh well, I can't breastfeed anyway, I'm off to play D&D".

When is the last time you changed a diaper, gave your son a bath, got him dressed, took him for a walk, got him down to sleep, just chilled with him on the couch while your girlfriend takes a much needed shower? When do you actually parent your own child without needing to be asked and without complaining you don't get payed for it?

You see, there is more to parenting than breastfeeding and baby magically being asleep, which you'd know if you didn't think it was acceptable to be busy with your hobbies instead of your child.

Would you accept a job, no matter what the pay, that you had to work at 24/7? Your girlfriend is doing this job 24/7. You get to come home and do something other than your job. She does not.

11 hours a day 5 days per week versus 24 hours a day 7 days per week.

See the difference?

Why don't you ask her to pump, so you can feed the baby?
When you get home tell her that you have the baby for now and she can go shower, nap, etc.

1If she's under the impression you need to offer, then basic common sense says YOU OFFER. When you get home, the first thing you say is "What do you need me to help with?"

I think the better question is why the hell did she have a child with you.

Just say 'Yes, Dear' and do what she wants. In around 6 months to a year, you Will understand.

You sound like a very immature person. If you didn’t want the responsibility of a child, you should have kept it in your pants. But since you didn’t, now you need to accept the responsibility and GROW UP.



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